On Being A Good Father

Fathers are extremely important members of the family. A University of Maryland School of Medicine study showed that men who take an active role in fathering have overwhelmingly positive effects on children. They found that kids with fathers learn better, have higher self-esteem and show fewer signs of depression than children without fathers.

Good fathers set good examples for their children. A good father sets a good example in relationship to his wife. For some men, that will mean getting rid of prehistoric concepts that are demeaning to women. Such attitudes are revealed in such statements as the following:  “The best way to keep a wife is barefoot and pregnant;” “All women are good for is cooking, cleaning, and having babies;” “I’m the man of the house, and she’ll do what I tell her;” “A man’s job is to bring home the bacon—a woman is to cook, clean, raise kids, and provide pleasure on demand.” We’ve all heard them before, haven’t we?

Instead of taking a caveman’s advice on how to treat a wife, why not take God’s advice.  God’s Word tells us, “Husbands, love your wives even as Christ loved the church” (Ephesians 5:25). Love her with your heart and show her with your actions. Don’t be a wooden Indian; talk and express your love. Tell her you love her. Tell her you appreciate her.  Don’t let her wonder about it. The three sweetest words in the English language are “I love you!” Don’t be stingy in dispensing them.

Do more than just talk; show your wife you love her. Hugs and kisses are always appreciated, so is an occasional pat on the back, or even a little lower.

Why do these things?  Do them so you’ll have a good home, be a good husband, be a good father, and set a good example for your children. Children are like little Sponge Bobs; their bodies like video cameras. They walk around, looking up, listening, and making video tapes of all they see. The title of these tapes is “This Is How Fathers Act,” or “This is How Mothers Act.” Children put the tapes in their video libraries (minds) and when they have families of their own, they will act and react the way their parents did.

We fathers need to ask ourselves as role models who have been taped, “What are we teaching our children about how a good father should relate to his wife?”