“You are my friends, if you do what I command” (John 15:14).



The old hymn, “What a Friend We Have in Jesus” is loved and cherished by millions of Christians because of the message it shares. The first verse tells us he bears all our sins and grief. He did this on the cross.


Grief is one of the greatest sorrows in our lives. When death comes and takes our loved ones, it is extremely hard. Our hearts are heavy and sometimes we are inconsolable.


People handle grief in different ways. Some pretend it doesn’t hurt. “Oh, I’m doing fine.” “I’m doing alright,” they will say. It may be that the reality of the situation hasn’t hit them yet, and they are numb, but grief will come.


Some take the position of keeping a “stiff upper lip,” saying to themselves, “I’m strong, I can handle it. I can’t let people see I’m hurting.”


A few people, when faced with grief, collapse, and turn into sobbing, moaning, crying human beings. It is OK to cry, in fact, it can be helpful in working through our grief.


However, the best way to deal with grief is to take it to Jesus. He is our friend and he loves us. God’s word tells us to cast all our cares on him because he cares for us (1 Peter 5:7). A burden (load) shared is a burden lightened. Take it to Christ because he can help. Afterwards, you will be able to sing, “What a Friend . . .” with more sincerity, and more love than ever before.


 Dr. Robert Wilkerson is a minister, writer, and founder of People for the Christian Way, an organization whose mission is to encourage all people to practice Christian principles in business, politics, and every area of life. drbobwilkerson@bellsouth.net, http://www.peopleforthechristianway.com